SHOULD YOU BELIEVE A SENIOR CITIZEN?
Of course you should!
This is a photo of my mom going to a gardening club party. She was always so much fun, and she had a devilish sense of humor. She certainly knew when and how to play the ‘little old lady’ card when she needed to. She wouldn’t let herself get pushed around because she was old.
I don’t know if it’s easier to believe a senior citizen I can see or one I can’t see (over the phone.) Mom always got the job done best over the phone. She was probably afraid she’d start grinning if she did it in person. If we had to get something done in person, she would take me as her pit bull. So, I’m certainly better over the phone too. (It seems that people take advantage of the elderly, especially in customer service.)
Take a look at these photos to try to determine if your judgement is correct.
#1. I’d believe this couple in a heartbeat. They look so caring.
TRUTH: My judgement was based on their body expressions and clothing. I have no other information to base the way I feel.
#2. This couple? I wouldn’t believe them. They look belligerent.
TRUTH: When you read the written material with the photo, you have the full context of what’s going on. Their faces are not belligerent, but they are confused.
#3 I’d run away from this lady. She looks like she’s been stuck with a hot poker.
TRUTH: Surprised and happy. I had just finished a 5 minute tap dancing lesson. (See Tap Dancing blog 11/30/18.)
How trustworthy is reading facial expression? There’ve been lots of books written on it. A family member took conducting classes in college. He had a book on facial expressions and their meanings. It was to help him understand how his band members were feeling.
Some famous people seem trustworthy.
Tom Selleck – He’s an honest guy (a private investigator then a Police Commissioner)
Alex Trebeck – He’s smart (Jeopardy)
Not only are languages different in other countries, gestures and expressions are too. And the same is true for people who use sign language.
So how do you know who to trust? For me, it’s gut instinct and ‘the hair on the back of my neck.’ But I’ve been wrong many times. Maybe I’d just eaten and my gut instinct wasn’t working. Maybe I’d had my haircut and the hair on my neck wouldn’t stand up.
I learn from mistakes and put it in that part of my brain for later recall.